Lady, you and me, we shop at the same store. Been there, done that, bought the tee shirt (far too many tee shirts frankly. I need to “Marie Kondo” my closet!)
All kidding aside, being in these situations sucked. I hated that I was living my life driven by the rules laid out by others, framed by their wants and needs, bypassing my own dreams and plans and at times, infuriated with myself for not standing up for what was good for me.
I had compromised myself and I had no clue who I was anymore, what I liked, what I did not like. I doubted myself, would not allow myself to recognize my capabilities and sense of self worth.
Then one day it hit me. I was sooo sick of feeling this way. Life was sucking the life out of me and I needed to do something about it.
I got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I was done with it all.
Once I hit the “done wall” I knew that the only way for things to get better for me was to look at my stuff. The stuff I was avoiding because it felt hard. I had to do it, so I broke it down, one chunk at a time. I had to learn how to stand up for who I was at my core – the gal who has a lot to give and do – who was tired of always playing “nice”.
I made it manageable for me to do, because any other way would have spelled disaster for me.
I took my time with it and slowly, but surely, I made it to the other side. Now, I am past it and I have completely embraced the gal I found on the other side. I like myself again – no, scratch that – I love myself, who I am now as a woman in her totality and I want that for you.
I know what it is like to…
- be living a life going through transition
- be at a crossroads, wondering which direction to take
- be mentally exhausted, overwhelmed and frustrated
- face grief and loss
- forget who you are, or even know who you want to be
- feel stuck
- feel minimized
- feel like an imposter
- live a life concerned about what other people think
- want to throw away the rule book
- fight your way back
- face the fear
- heal your shit
- learn and grow
- slowly make small shifts that can change your life for the better
I know what it is like and I faced every one of those challenges, one step at a time. Rome was not built in a day, and like anything worth your while, slow and steady will win the race.
Here is the kicker – once you start to take those steps, wonderful things start to happen. The scenery gets better, the baggage you have been hauling around drops away and you start to see the amazing path you are now on more clearly. You are on your way to where you want to go. You are no longer stuck in the same old, same old. Bring it on sista!
Why am I the person to help you?
Not only do I have life experiences like the ones you are facing, I learned how to handle whatever situation comes up for me, in a way that feels true to my values and who I am as a human being on this planet.
I took back control over everything and I worked through the crap that was holding me back from leading a more personally fulfilling life with the help of some awesome coaches of my own.
I can help you do the same thing.
How I got here and the creds
I have always had an interest in people and what makes them tick so it made perfect sense for me to pursue a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology to learn as much as I could. Combine that with being the type of person that people naturally turn to when they need someone to help them work through their stuff made becoming a life coach a no brainer for me.
I followed my passion and became a certified life coach because I love helping women get past their junk and fully embrace living life on their terms. I’ve even got the certificates to show for it from the Certified Coaches Federation and The Courageous Living Coach Certification! Boo Ya!
Believe it or not, I did not start out as a life coach!
I successfully moved into this profession after 30 years in the corporate world, most recently at Microsoft as a Senior Audience Marketing Manager, with a direct customer focus. My career has been varied, but always anchored on one primary thing – helping people accomplish what they need to, enabling them to succeed.
I completely understand the corporate world, what makes it tick. I also get the tech world and all that comes with it. As women, we face a lot of challenges in the work place, too many to number here. I know I have personally faced situations that made me really dig in so I could re-align with my core values and I am willing to bet you have as well. Or maybe this is where you want some guidance.
After many years chasing the corporate 9-5 and living my life quarter by quarter, I am happily embracing my new career and I am finally doing what I am meant to be doing. I will never claim to know all the answers, but I can promise that I will help you gain the clarity you need to take the steps forward for you to change your life for the better.
All that with a dash of humour to keep sanity front and centre!
On a more personal note
I am an introvert at heart, loving cozy time hunkered down with a great book (historical fiction and crime novels are a fav!) and a cuppa tea. As a little girl, my teachers used the word “conscientious” to describe me all the time and I would hazard a guess that the word is still very much applicable to who I am today. I love to binge watch shows on Netflix, dance around to 70’s rock, hop on a mat and do Yoga/Pilates, or you can find me in the great outdoors connecting with Mother Earth so I can ground and reconnect with what really matters. I am a knitter, but confess that it can take me years to actually complete a sweater (so maybe not that conscientious!)
There is a wee bit of the Woo in me as well. I have been known to really tap into my intuition and I’ll dial it up when I feel the need. I also love to pull Oracle cards to see what messages may come up that I can sink into. I love Kuan Yin (she is an East Asian bodhisattva associated with compassion) and I have statues of her all over my house. There is something about her gentle presence that brings me serenity, joy and into clear alignment with what matters most to me.